Usher and the first time that my daughter gave a talk
Mum, I have to give a talk for the first time and the topic will be blindness and poor eyesight.
One of the chapters will be about ‘My mother’. Here she wanted to tell about the advantages and the disadvantages of having an ‘Usher’ mother.
One of the advantages she describes is that she could steal sweets without me seeing it. I had great doubts about this, for what does this actually mean? Taking small sweets from the sweet jar at home while I was standing beside it or stealing a chocolate bar in the supermarket while I was having trouble finding a best-before date on the label of a product?
The other advantage that she mentioned happened to us years ago in Disneyland Paris. This was the first time I went to an amusement park since I had started to use my red and white cane.
We benefited from my cane already on the first day. At some attractions we could simply walk on through the back entrance. Apparently because I had a cane!
Later we were told about the possibility to get a disability pass for visually impaired/blind people (this is presently not that easy any longer).
This prevented me from stumbling up and down stairs in dark buildings or knocking over people standing in the queue with my cane. Or from being put in a hold by my husband to save me from falling over a threshold, while he also tried to keep an eye on our two over-enthusiastic children.
My daughter saw this advantage from a completely different perspective, as no two-hour queues for her thanks to the Usher of her mother.
She also mentions disadvantages of an having an ‘Usher’ mum, such as walking to the library, getting soaking wet in the rain at the bus stop because we cannot go by car or pointing out where the cat has ‘puked’. Really disgusting, mum.
I come up with another disadvantage for her. You have to give mummy a hand outside in the dark so we can get home a bit faster and without spending a bit less energy.
No mum, that is not a disadvantage at all. I just really like to give you a hand!
Karin den Boogert
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